Is it Better to Stay or Leave?
You should think first about your safety and the safety of your children. You may choose to leave for a short time. Or you may decide to leave permanently, but still not end your marriage or relationship. Ask yourself: how dangerous is it to stay? Has the abuser ever used a weapon to hurt you?

You might decide it is better for you to stay. If you are injured, get medical treatment. Make sure you have a plan ready in case you need to leave quickly. The first few pages of the telephone book usually list the number for police and other emergency services. It is a good idea to learn the police emergency phone number in case you need their help. It would also be helpful to gather information about people who can help you. Try planning for the future by learning new job skills, or by exploring the possibility of studying in Canada if you are not yourself here on a student visa. If the abuser wishes to change, it is possible with counselling, but it is very difficult for violent men to change. The abuse usually gets worse over time.